Updated: Sep 25, 2019
Networking! For a lot of people this is akin to going to the torture chamber. Why do so many people dislike networking? There are many reasons which include not liking talking about yourself, fear of being judged, fear of being alone and feeling that it's a fake and 'dog eat dog' approach out there.
I must admit that when I first started networking in the way past I would immediately be consumed with thoughts of 'not knowing anyone', 'Will anyone be interested in me?" I remember going to a networking event for life coaches in New York, and I didn't know what to say! I felt in awe of more experienced coaches. I felt intimidated, and racked with fear.
Sometimes we can down grade ourselves before anyone has even met us, so when we attend a social gathering we are not representative of our true selves. We may appear sullen, keep ourself to ourselves and not make conversation. It's not that we don't want to, but that we at the deepest levels don't feel good enough.
My priority when networking is now to meet as many people as possible who I feel I have synergy with. The golden rule is to smile, and to listen to what everyone has to say. Then collect business cards, always promising to contact the people who you would like to connect with further. Don't wait for them to contact you. Take ownership, and contact them within 24 hours.
1. Aim to ask more questions than anyone else
2. Listen and take business cards
3. Email or connect within 24 hours
4. Never leave it to anyone to contact you. Very few do follow through.That's just human nature!
David Rahman is a specialist mind coach, and life coach in London and New York. He is the creator the Blue Print Process ®, Let It Go Programme ® and F.I.T Mind Model ®. David speaks around the world and works with private clients looking to improve their self confidence and self esteem. His podcast is called 'The Mind Coach' is featured on iTunes.